Morning Mourns…..!
All the positivity of life begins with a beautiful beginning in the morning. Reading a Newspaper with a cup of green tea first thing in the morning, adds on to this positivity. The Newspaper would have all types of news… informative, educational, business oriented, prosperity and current happenings….which would embolden the reader to go through all types of emotions. Some news make us happy for the day and some ignite thoughts to nurture.
One such front page news in yesterday's paper was about a man killing his two daughters in a brutal way. I read the news in detail and stopped with that. But then, another similar news in today's paper made me to think about the incidents from a different perspective.
Let's have a relook at the news:
Aug 07 2017 : The Times of India (Delhi)
| Dad kills his 2 daughters over wife's `affair' |
A 35-year-old man who suspected his wife of cheating killed his two young daughters at their house in Gurgaon's New Palam Vihar on Saturday night. Mukesh Yadav struck his daughters -Pooja (3) and Neha (5) -with a brick. He hit Pooja on the head after having tried to slit her throat with a knife, while he strangled Neha after thrashing her with the brick, reports Gayas Eapen.
Mukesh killed the girls when his wife had apparently gone to a police station with their two sons to complain against her husband's violence. Mukesh later called the cops himself and, after being arrested, confessed to the crime. http://epaperbeta.timesofindia.com/index.aspx?EID=31808&dt=20170807
Aug 08 2017 : The Times of India (Delhi)
Man crushes wife's head with cylinder as kids look on
An unemployed man staying with his in-laws in southeast Delhi's Badarpur area stabbed his wife multiple times with a kitchen knife, slit her throat and then crushed her head with a gas cylinder in a fit of rage after she refused to leave her parents' house and stay with him in a rented flat nearby. The couple's two children -brothers four and 10 years old -were witness to the horrific murder. http://epaperbeta.timesofindia.com/index.aspx?eid=31808&dt=20170808
Let's analyse the news:
In both the cases, wives had a mind of their own and they were capable of taking decisions.
In the first case, wife had some awareness about her legal rights. To ascertain her rights she decided to go to the Police station.
In the second case, wife decided not to go to a rented accommodation with her unemployed husband.
At both the cases, husbands were swayed by extreme power of anger and ended up being the gruesome murderer of their dear one's.
Such an act of anger does not happen in a sudden fit of rage…there has to be earlier episodes of frequent fights between the couple and aggravated physical violence with each episode … then only such a stage comes when a person could get into such a fit of rage.
Suggested Solutions:
There could be many reasons to such sudden gruesome action. A clinical psychologist and/or a psychiatrist would be the right persons to analyse such reasons.
But my understanding from common people's point of view, the need of the day is to create awareness about mental health and certain common symptoms of identifying mental health issues in self and others. Our mind is the most powerful part of our body that rules our life…and for the majority of us, we take least care to nurture our beautiful minds as healthy minds.
In a hypothetical situation, as the wives of the above cases were capable of taking decisions, some awareness about mental health issues would have helped them to go to professional counsellors and take proper guidance to treat and improve upon the mental health of the husbands and thereby they could have saved the family.
The solutions would not end here: the four young boys (two sons in the first case who went with their mother to police station, two sons in the second case who were present on the spot), who witnessed the violence and its outcome will need immediate counselling and professional intervention to help them overcome the trauma and see the world from a new perspective of love, care and trust.
Hope for a new beginning, a new dawn and no more morning mourns.
